The Role of Insecurity in Attachment and Fear of Intimacy in Predicting the Desire for Remarriage in Divorced Women

Document Type : Original Article

Authors

1 PhD student in counseling, Department of Counseling, Faculty of Education and Psychology, University of Isfahan, Isfahan, Iran.

2 Department of Educational Sciences, Payame Noor University, Tehran, Iran.

3 PhD Student in Counseling, Faculty of Humanities, Yazd Azad University. Yazd. Iran.

4 PhD Student in Psychology, Faculty of Humanities, Tehran Azad University of Research Sciences. Tehran. Iran.

Abstract

Objective: This study was conducted to investigate the role of Insecurity in Attachment and fear of intimacy in predicting the desire for remarriage in divorced women.
Methods: This study was descriptive-correlational. The statistical population of this study consisted of divorced women in Tehran in 2020, and among them, 158 people were selected using convenience sampling and snowball methods through social networks. Data were collected using the Marriage Desire and Fear of Intimacy questionnaires and the Adult Attachment Scale. Pearson correlation and multiple regression analysis were also used to analyze data. The data were analyzed using Pearson correlation and multiple regression analysis at a significance level of (P<0.05), for which SPSS22 was used.
Results: The results showed that fear of intimacy has a negative and significant relationship with the desire to remarry (r = -0.209; p = 0.008). However, anxious and avoidant insecure attachment styles did not show a significant relationship with the desire to remarriage. Multiple regression analysis showed that Fear of intimacy could explain only 3.8% of changes in remarriage desire among divorced women.
Conclusion: The desire and tendency to remarry in divorced women is affected by negative experiences resulting from previous failed marriages or relationships. Therefore, paying attention to the healing of emotional wounds or psychological trauma in premarital counseling seems necessary before attempting to remarriage.

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  • Receive Date: 28 October 2023
  • Revise Date: 07 August 2024
  • Accept Date: 08 August 2024

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